(we will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.) we will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns. national... - competition on worries. / - competition on worries. we invited two special people to join us today.
Android TV quebec, please welcome yeo esther and hong hyegeol. - hello. / - hello. you don't have to stand up. (they're so polite.)
we've heard that you two get along - so well together. / - right. - we used to. / - until a few years ago? i'm 53 and menopausal and he's over 50 so he had a mid-life crisis. we recently separated our beds. - by 30cm. / - they're 30cm apart. why is that?
menopausal women find it hard to sleep. if he makes a fuss, - i can't sleep. / - i've never seen her... - i've never... / - also, in order to ensure i don't wake him up, - this is a worry. / - before i go to bed... - i sleep in this position. / - i see. do you know how much my arms would hurt? we separated our beds to gain some freedom.
i find it very annoying that my wife is so desperate to get more screen-time. she tries to beat me at everything. you're supposed to be a model couple. all sorts of things get on my nerves nowadays. i like sleeping in separate beds and i also say some smart things on tv. but if we watch the actual show, she looks smart and pretty,
- so i... / - is that a concern? - there is some discord. / - discord? you should write in, - not be on the panel. / - really? (our doors are always open.) you've been married for 24 years. that's a while. do you have any tips on how to overcome any crises? like when you fight?
this isn't a tip or secret but i try to think of my husband as a son. when he comes home late heavily drunk, it makes me angry. if i think of him as my son, i can get up and even peel him some fruit. - i try to think of him as my son. / - he's your son. i have something to say. i consider my wife one of my patients.
(a patient who came in for a consultation) that's a great tip. (this is reality.) a son, a patient. she's menopausal, a patient who needs care. - patients... / - everything makes sense. you can't leave a patient alone by a stream because you're upset.
- by a stream? / - yes. we went for a walk and... i think this show just caused them more worries. (they dressed in the same color but...) we have three worries for you today. show us the keywords please. (the keywords are revealed.) - "hello, i'm yeongsook." / - yeongsook. "she's gold, i'm poop."
- "daughter, please stop." / - "daughter, please stop." "daughter, please stop." it's from a mother who wants her daughter to stop. hello, everyone. i'm a mom in my 60s who can't sleep at night worrying about my married daughter. ever since she got married, - she hasn't stopped having children. / - what? my eldest grandson is her 15-year-old boy.
there's a 13-year-old girl, a 12-year-old boy, a 9-year-old boy, a 5-year-old boy, a 4-year-old girl, a 2-year-old boy and she recently had another girl. that's eight kids, five boys and three girls. (that's incredible.) that's amazing. "my goodness." "will you stop having kids?"
"don't say that, mom." "i won't stop until i have ten." my daughter just won't listen to me. because of that... (she wants two more kids.) "hello, ma'am." "will you tell your daughter to stop having kids?" both sets of in-laws are stressed out because of her stubbornness.
my dear, will you stop having children? (stop having children.) that's insane. - this is incredible. / - it really is. when we see a couple with many children, we see them sitting up there. the husbands tend to look shriveled. (the husbands are thin.) he's thin too.
let's meet the mom. ma'am, come and join us. (who's the mom with a daughter who wants ten kids?) (kim yoonja) (welcome!) this is a very rare situation. - it is. / - are they all her kids? yes. she's been married for 14 years now.
i wasn't too bothered until she had the third child. now she has eight children. - oh, dear. / - so i told her to stop having kids and she said she'd have up to ten. - she wants ten? / - yes. i'm here because i'm so worried. in these cases, daughters usually take after their mothers.
how many children did you have, ma'am? me? three daughters and one son. - you have three girls, one boy. / - just like my family. - yes. hello. / - four kids. hello. - did you just notice me? / - yes. it's great to meet you. say hello to yeongja. are you here because you can't babysit them?
- right. / - no, babysitting isn't a problem. - i'm a licensed caregiver. / - you don't babysit? - i'm working. / - you work. i just visit my daughter to see my grandkids. is she always pregnant? - is that her... / - she's usually pregnant. she looks so old and she's too busy with the kids to wear makeup or pretty clothes. is your concern the fact
- that she's losing out on her own life? / - correct. she doesn't seem to be worried. she goes and gives birth in an hour or so. - in an hour? / - yes. (a one-hour birth) may i ask how old your daughter is? my daughter is barely in her 30s but her husband is ten years older. i can't wait to meet the couple.
i can see all eight kids. hello. (meet the family.) (it's a huge family.) - hello, kids. / - hello. very few couples these days plan to have this many children. not only is it expensive but it's also draining. how did you end up like this?
i am so incredibly healthy. what does health have to do with this? did you really give birth in one hour? yes, not only did i give birth in an hour but when i went to have the baby i was able to go alone. - it was nearby. / - alone? it wasn't far so i drove myself. weren't you feeling any pains then?
did you just feel like you were on a trip? (i'm off to have a baby.) that's just too strange. - "let's go have a kid." / - gosh. why do you want to have ten kids? won't it be hard to raise them? of course it's harder to raise them than to just give birth. but if i only focused on the negative things,
why would i want to have 12 kids? - your mom said 10. / - do you want 12? (it's 12, not 10?) (murmuring) wasn't the goal to have ten? we're planning to have 12. - hey! are you crazy? that's too many. / - why 12? say something, ma'am. - she wants to have 12. / - no way. she's mad.
why do you want 12 kids? the reason i want to have 12 kids is because each and every one of them are pretty and as long as i live... speak up. you must have a lot to say. - you'll become an mc. / - "mom, stop." they're quiet for a family of eight kids. your mother-in-law called me. she wants you to stop torturing your husband.
were you aware your mother-in-law had called? when i first got married, my mother-in-law told us to have kids to improve our relationship. now she says that... (come here.) - you'll fall. / - watch out. (she might get hurt.) there must never be a quiet day in that household.
this is what it's like all the time if you have many kids. can you send the kids out? (let go.) she'll never sit down. (she sat down.) - she's cute. / - well done. - good. / - so, ma'am. ma'am.
(sit still.) your mother-in-law is calling your mother. did your husband say he's on the verge of death or something? (concerned) do you think he complained to her? (i'm fine.) (in a daze) she's too preoccupied with the kids.
- let's send the kids out. / - i'm so sorry. your mother's worried about your health and your own life as a woman. do you understand that? i'm still healthy and... your house is always bustling with kids and it's heartbreaking to see you working all the time. i can't blame the kids at all. - you can't. / - it's so upsetting.
you cherish her, don't you? - she's your baby. / - yes, i do. now i can finally breathe. (peace descends on the set.) we sent off the younger ones and we're left with three. - this is just ideal. / - the oldest three are here. they can sit still. the rest of the audience are at ease now. they were so afraid someone would trip and fall.
are you healthy in every aspect? i am very healthy. my grandmother's sister had and raised 12 children. manjong and chiljong... - manjong? / - manjong and chiljong? and she still lived to be 99 years old. that's the life i'm living right now and i think that's healthy. - is it for your longevity? / - yes.
(kids for longevity?) your mom's concern is that you're in your 30s - but you don't look like you are. / - she looks like she's in her 50s. she's worried you don't have a life. what do you think? every one of my kids look different. that's true. they make me happy.
i think i live a happy life. every child is different. for her, happiness isn't about clothes or makeup. it's about creating a miracle. it's not like that at all at their place. - it's messy. / - is it crazy? - yes. / - that can't be helped. (doing dishes, playing, babysitting, reading, sleeping) (only food keeps the kids quiet.)
even if i want to help her clean up, she tells me that kids make a mess as they grow up, that i shouldn't bother. that upsets me so much. - because you came to help. / - exactly. raising kids and doing the housework... isn't it too much to handle alone? i don't think it's tiring or stressful. - i cook and prepare kids' meals. / - the food.
my husband helps with the chores. he cooks me seaweed soup after i give birth - and the kids take turns. / - he's sweet. my oldest daughter helps with the baby formula. the kids help out a lot. i'd like to meet the husband who's sitting quietly - as if he's exhausted. / - her husband? - shall we meet him? / - yes. based on looks alone you don't look like
a man who accomplished such a feat. you look weak and tired. - i think... / - was this - all planned? / - his skin's so dry. it wasn't at all planned. we considered having up to four kids. that's still a lot. - we... / - did kids just keep popping out? how is that possible?
(you know how it works.) what happened? at first everything went according to plan. i think my wife has an obsession with kids. as her husband, couldn't you have drawn the line? if it got too bad, you could've secretly... if you're too tired. secretly tie a ribbon. you aren't even married yet.
- you could've done it. / - i considered it. but she'd be heartbroken if she found out. - i couldn't do it. / - are you scared of her? not really. she gets bossy once she makes a decision. i see. she told us she wants to have 12 kids. - did you know that? / - i did. did you object to it?
i still do. i want to stop with eight. - i tell her. / - you still respect your wife so much. what is your biggest concern right now? my wife loves meeting people and she wants to spend more time outside. a month before she gave birth - she went hiking. / - fully pregnant? for a couple of hours.
that's where she gets her energy. just after she gave birth... - how soon after? / - a week after. - where did she go? / - outside, in the cold. she's so active. she loves going out and sometimes her phone's off. i don't know who she's with. - we leave kids at daycare. / - right. they call me.
- because they can't reach her? / - yes. i had to take time off work to pick up the kids. where do you usually go? i sometimes go out to meet people and my phone dies and my husband gets antsy. shouldn't you watch your health after you give birth? i put on warm clothes and go outside to heal myself in my own way.
do you feel better after you go out? - yes. / - finances must be a huge concern. when i meet parents with three kids, they regret having so many because it's hard work. my husband's business is doing well and... sir, you speak. your wife is saying everything's fine because she wants more kids. as the breadwinner, what do you think? businesses have ups and downs.
- that's true. / - anything can happen. my biggest concern right now is our retirement. will we have anything to live off of later on in life? you are in your mid-40s. when your youngest child becomes an adult you will be in your mid-60s. if you have four more children, you could reach 70 before they become adults. i am concerned if you can put up with that.
did you consider that? - my husband is ten years older. / - right. i'm still in my 30s. i can earn money to feed the family, so i think we're more than capable. - think about your own age. / - so... i wonder if you communicate well as a couple. - let's ask them. / - the husband seems intimidated. it could be that the wife's intimidating.
i don't think they discuss the kid issue enough. until the fourth kid we discussed and timed everything. after that she got a bit aggressive and it was more like a one-way street. my opinions never really get through to her. is this a cause of stress for you? i'm very concerned. it's not like that. - he said it is. / - he wanted four kids
and we went on to have four more. i think we'll end up with 12. this is the one-way street. he wants to stop. i can tell already that the wife rules the household - as she sees fit. / - i think so too. everything works the way i like it. (no one can curb her stubbornness.) what is your biggest concern? - i have another worry. / - what's that?
she wants to send the kids to canada. she took two of them there last year. which two? she took the two oldest children. - to learn english? / - yes. i'm so worried she wants to do it again. what's she talking about? what is your wife planning? we don't have detailed or concrete plans
but my wife is very outgoing and she got to meet a few people who are from canada. she studied what it's like to raise children there. will you emigrate? i think that's her plan. - does she want to emigrate? / - yes. - is that your idea? / - did you agree? we didn't agree but she made the decision and then explained everything to me.
i just kept up. - you tell us. / - can you explain? i have decided to emigrate. that's final. - it's final? / - yes. your husband said nothing's concrete. on february 24... (she has a date set?) - on february 24 we'll leave. / - she's crazy. - what should we do? / - the whole family?
- i'll leave first with the two older kids. / - okay. the other younger kids will follow us later on. my husband will remain in korea for five to ten years and join us after we've settled down. - he has to support you? / - yes. that's my plan. are you going to raise eight kids alone in canada? people think eight kids is a lot of work but the canadian government supports large families.
in korea it's very expensive to educate kids. that's why i made the decision to emigrate. i'd like to know why you want to leave. was it hard to raise eight kids in korea? we moved many times since we got married 14 years ago. how many times? we moved 14 times. did neighbors complain? we moved almost every year.
our neighbors complained of the noise and called the police on us and it was stressful. in the long run, if we move to quebec, canada, we can get a big house. it'll be better for the kids. you have 8 kids and you want 12. how will you do that living separately? my husband went on frequent business trips but we still managed to get pregnant. - what? / - so he travels frequently
but every attempt was fruitful? - yes. / -you have a high success rate. - earlier on... / - you're so cold-hearted. you're telling him to live alone for five to ten years. did you actually reach an agreement regarding emigration? we talked about it a lot and we set up a plan. your husband implied
that it was more of an ultimatum. he discussed but didn't consent. - it's not agreed upon. / - he put it as if - it hasn't been decided. / - right. - but i told him that it's decided. / - wait. did your children agree to this? my children want to go to canada too. raise your hand if you want to move to canada. if you want to live in korea
with your parents and siblings, raise your hand. (they hesitate to raise their hands.) - goodness. / - i see. at their age, they have close friends, and because they're close to the age of puberty, it's not easy to transfer to another school. but she is too - she's too dogmatic. / - dogmatic.
more than anything, the dad isn't convinced yet. - he looks sad. are you sad? / - of course, he is. i think this is the biggest problem. his opinion is completely ignored. please talk to us. it's the same with the children. say it if you want to live here with your children. (it's a big concern.) her father is sitting next to the children.
your daughter planned everything to emigrate to canada. - what do you think about that? / - i am completely against the idea. here's my reason. if my son-in-law stays here, the family will be living apart. - you don't know what will happen. / - yes. nowadays, i heard some people get divorced while sleeping together.
- it's when they are awake. - i heard it. / - good morning. let's get divorced. - you have to be asleep. / - all right. last year, they stayed abroad for about six months. and i missed them so much. i couldn't see them when they stayed abroad. - right. / - it's impossible. your parents say they are going to miss the children. what do you think about that?
we can come to korea once a year. they can talk to the children through a video call. so i don't think it's going to be too tough. but is the video call enough? the eight children won't fit in the screen. when a couple decides to emigrate abroad, it's their decision and it should be honored. but in your case, you seem to have decided it alone regardless of what your husband thinks.
you decide everything alone and i'm worried that it might backfire later on. have you always been the person who has to push for what you want? i've discussed everything with my husband. but your husband only - wanted to have four children. / - yes. but you want more children even now. - yes. / - so you haven't
come to an agreement yet. are you even willing to take another family member's opinion? yes. i don't think it's hard - to have 12 children. / - she's mad. she's very stubborn. just like her mother said, she's mad! (she's the stubbornest woman.) when we asked
the first two children if they wanted to migrate to canada... they hesitated to answer and checked their mom. - they kept checking her. / - so i want to ask them one more time. do you want to move to canada? the mom should close her eyes. tell us honestly. do you want to migrate to canada? - i don't want to go. / - you don't want to go.
how about you? it's okay if we go. it's okay if we don't go. it's half and half. - okay. / - how about the third one? - i don't want to go. / - you don't want to go. okay. you heard them, right? let's vote now. (the guests will vote.)
actually, i think the mother contemplated hard about having more children and about her moving to canada with the children. - right. / - and honestly, - we should all be ashamed. / - yes. she's taking her eight children to canada. - i know. / - she's worried about raising them here. i think things should change so she won't be worried. - so i'll vote no. / - but you have to think
from her mother's point of view. she's worried about her daughter and her son-in-law - making their marriage work. / - i'm saying that they shouldn't even have to worry about it. why do you say that? it's a big problem. because he's so off-the-wall like this... i think this is all because you sleep separately. - is this a worry or not? / - you should use one bed. i absolutely think it's a worry.
can't i press it many times? - no. / - you can press it only once. let's hear your opinion. you should think in her shoes. if you think it's a worry, please press the button. (what does the audience think?) - in five, four, / - in five, four, - three, two, one. / - three, two, one. - stop. / - the time is up. let's let the son-in-law speak.
what do you want to say to your wife and mother-in-law? what i am even more worried about - is my wife's health. / - right. she gave birth too many times. i want to tell her to take care of her health well. i'm sure my mother-in-law is very worried but she shouldn't worry too much. - he's very sweet. / - he is indeed. is there anything you want to say
to your mother? - will you reconsider it? / - will you reconsider? - to your mom. / - it's for the children, mom. please understand me. your daughter is very stubborn. she's decided. you love your grandchildren but you love your child too. oh, dear. of course her daughter comes first for her.
she's very heartbroken. it would be nice if you would reconsider and discuss it with your husband once again. "daughter, please stop". - the title says it all. / - it does. please reveal the result. (the result) ("daughter, please stop") the last digit is nine.
(she's heartbroken.) is it 159? is it 149? it's 139. (she got 139 votes.) "she's gold, i'm poop.". that's the title of this story. hello. i am choi gahye, a fourth grader who resents her grandmother so much.
she treats my elder sister like gold and me like poop. this winter, she bought my sister a 287-dollar orange winter coat and a 50-dollar jacket. she bought me three pairs of socks. that's too different. whenever she has the slightest symptoms of cold, she goes, "my poor puppy, you're burning with fever." "let's go see a doctor."
but when i got hospitalized, she didn't even visit me. she said, "my goodness, you mischievous girl." when my mom tries to scold us for fighting, she says to my mom, "how dare you scold my sweetie?" "you should only scold the little one." she yells like that. it hurts me the most when she says this. "goodness. you should've only had one child."
"the second one is too naughty." "she will just waste her father's hard-earned money." - oh, dear. / - i feel hurt when she says that. do i not deserve any love? why does she treat me so badly? i want to ask my grandmother. (please cherish me too grandma!) it's a sad story. esther seems upset.
yes. among five girls, i'm the third one in my family. so my sisters used to pass down their clothes to me. it gets passed down to me after my two sisters. and the clothes always ripped when it got to me. my mom always scolded me for being rough. - that's unfair. / - she blamed me for ripping them. your younger sister didn't get any clothes. - right. so she wore new clothes. / - she got new ones. when my dad bought me
a nice european style piggy bank on his business trip, i saved my money every day. but my elder sisters spent all my money and i was too foolish to know it. when you start talking, you never stop. - yes. / - she's desperate to get more screen time. - that's not it. / - she's frustrating. is this one of the menopausal symptoms? he had everything growing up, so he doesn't know. (this couple's life is like a comedy.)
let's meet the girl who sent us the story. please come on out. (who's worried about her discriminating grandmother?) (choi gahye) she's so cute. she's so adorable. - you should take off your shoes here. / - she's cute. do you think your grandmother discriminates against you?
yes. when she calls my sister, she says, "come here, my lovely puppy." but she swears whenever she talks to me. - why is she unfair to her? / - so... - you must feel hurt. / - her house is near ours. - i see. / - so we visit her often. but she says only my sister should visit her. - really? / - does she tell you not to come?
when i go with her, grandma asks why i came along. i can't believe this. that is too harsh. grandmothers are normally... why do you think she treats you unfairly? i don't know. she just doesn't like me. you wouldn't have come here if you knew. can you tell us about one upsetting incident? i wanted my grandmother to love me, so i helped my sister with the dishes.
good girl. my sister made a mess in the sink but she blamed me for it. - "did you do this?" / - she always blames you. one time, soup got spilled on the table. my sister spilled it but grandma blamed me. i told her my sister was the one who did it but she told me i was lying. - that's so sad. / - are there more?
- i once gave her a massage. / - did you? with these tiny hands. when my sister does it, grandma tells her to stop. but when i do it, she tells me to massage harder. - "harder!" / - whenever we argue, she sides with my sister without knowing the situation. - she's unfair. / - she sides with your sister. doesn't your sister stop your grandmother when she does that?
most of the time she's evil. - is your sister evil? / - yes. she uses grandma as a shield. - she protects your sister. / - she's got her back. when she gets scolded by mom, she threatens to tell on her to grandma and mom can't scold her. when she does scold my sister, my sister tells on my mom and my mom gets scolded.
you seem to resent your grandmother a lot and i don't know why she is like this. she's sitting over there and she resembles lee hongryol a lot. i thought hongryol was here. - hello. / - hello, i am gahye's grandmother. you just heard your granddaughter's story. how do you feel about it? the two girls have a very different personality.
- personality. / - gahye is bad-tempered. (is she laughing at her granddaughter?) - and? / - the first one is innocent and very sensitive. then do you admit that you treat them differently? i do treat them differently. even if i want to treat gahye nicely, she asks for me to treat her badly.
let us get to the bottom of this. it was the eldest who made the mess. why did you blame gahye for it? it's been such a long time that i forgot about that. - did you forget about it? / - when did it happen? then why did you say that gahye shouldn't visit your house? i never told her not to come. - is this a hearing? / - that's what she thought.
- "i don't know. i don't remember." / - when i... when i talk to her, she gets really upset. she doesn't listen when i ask her to run errands. then let me ask you this. you call your elder granddaughter "my lovely puppy". i've never done that in front of gahye. then who called her that? how do you call gahye? what?
little puppy? - she's adorable! / - grandma! what's wrong? - what? / - how do you call gahye? i call her by her name of course. is there a reason why you adore and cherish your first granddaughter more? i do adore her more. - why? / - i admit that.
when she was five, she had a big surgery. she had a big surgery on her face. and her body is imbalanced, so she used to fall all the time when she was little. so i have a soft spot for her. that's why i favor her. i am nicer to my elder granddaughter. she says she favors your sister because your sister was weak when she was little. can't you understand her?
i can understand her loving my sister more. but i can't understand why she would hate me. right. - she's right. / - according to your grandmother, you don't help her when she asks you for help. - you act up. / - you talk back to her. she always yells at me. when she tells me that i'm a bad girl, i get upset. right. you didn't do anything wrong.
that's why i got upset and yelled at her. - and she thinks i'm bad-tempered. / - right. but you're such a lovely girl. she's just a fourth grader but she logically explained herself. she understands her grandma for loving her sister more. but she doesn't understand why she hates her. maybe she's being considerate of your unwell sister. but my sister is healthy.
(what are you talking about?) what does she know? (she's so lovely.) she says she's favoring your sister for being weak - but you think it's not true. / - she's smart. she's strong now. my sister watches tv when grandma asks me to run errands for her. - you hate that. / - i wanted to do it
with my sister, so i told granny that. and she told me i couldn't do that. - did she tell you to go alone? / - yes. - you can't do anything about that. / - that's... that's something - we all went through. / - i went through it too. - me too. / - i was the youngest. - but... / - all my sisters were watching tv. that's just how it is for the youngest child.
you wish she'd do it once in five times. even if i do it ten times, she wouldn't do it once. that's why i'm trying to make it once in five times. (chanwoo is trying to cut a deal for her.) i'm trying. that's what you want, isn't it? - yes. / - right. when i was in second grade, i was once ill-treated by my teacher. she suddenly asked me what was the capital of the us.
i said washington and my rival said new york. - i was right. / - right. but she said new york was the real capital. what is that? - that's nonsense. / - she hated me. - so... / - listen. - what's important is that / - she's interrupting. it happened exactly 43 years ago. i still remember that teacher's name.
- i remember how she treated me. / - right. - it was so unfair. so i understand her. / - right. (you can't forget about being maltreated.) since when did you think that she resents you? one time, i left school early and went to grandma's house. she said i was pretending to be sick. - did she think you were lying? / - yes. was there another one?
a couple of months ago, i went to ride see-saw with my sister and her friends. she suddenly got off the seesaw. - you dropped suddenly. / - you dropped. yes. so i bumped my tummy into the handle - and i got hospitalized for a week. / - goodness. but my grandma didn't visit me and she said i got hurt because i'm naughty. why didn't you visit her in the hospital?
- she was in the hospital for a week. / - yes. - she stayed for a week. / - please use the mic. - please talk to the mic. / - i don't remember it. (i don't need the mic because i don't remember.) this is not a hearing, madam. why do you keep avoiding every question? - i was sick recently. / - stop avoiding my questions. (you're too mean!) let's forget about the time when she was hospitalized.
then why did you tell her to stop pretending to be sick when she was actually sick? i don't remember that either. - goodness! / - gosh. - she's unbelievable. / - goodness. what's wrong with you? let's talk to her sister at this point. i think she will tell us something good. hello, dear.
(it's you!) do you understand how your sister feels? - yes, a little. / - why do you? i think she would feel a little sad. just a little sad. how does your grandmother treat you? - give us an example. / - when i go to her house, she feeds me tangerines and listens to me whenever i talk to her.
does she feed your sister tangerines too? she doesn't come. she refuses to go to grandma's house because grandma favors me. two incidents happened in the past. the soup incident and the messy sink incident. when those incidents happened, - why didn't you say you did it? / - i did. - did you? / - but what did your grandmother say?
did she still scold your sister? because i'm older, she believes i didn't do it. she claimed she did it. so why did you blame gahye? i didn't see her doing it, so i blamed gahye. how do you feel whenever that happens? gahye gets scolded for what you did. she's being falsely accused. how do you feel? i've tried to explain though. it's too bad.
(i'm so upset.) she can be nicer to grandma in the first place. do you think she's not good to grandma? she yells at grandma and she doesn't visit her. she doesn't visit grandma at all. she doesn't know how grandma's doing. that's why grandma likes gahye less. in your letter, you said your mom gets scolded by your granny too.
yes. grandma bought my sister a pair of sneakers. i was jealous, so i asked my mom to buy me one. so my mom bought me a pair in the market. and my sister told grandma about it. so grandma called mom and scolded her. i don't remember doing that. (she should seek for a doctor's help.) - she's the best. / - this is how judges feel. - she avoids everything. / - we can't ask her anymore.
- she avoids everything. / - did you tell your her - about the shoes... / - you exaggerated the fact. because you were jealous? - tell us. / - i was just telling her. - were you just telling her what happened? / - yes. here's today's family news. gahye got new shoes from her mom. (breaking news! gahye gets new shoes.) whenever your sister tells something to grandma,
your mom gets scolded. she scolds your mom about buying your sister the jeans, cutting her hair and buying shoes for only you. is that what happens? - yes. / - i see. do you remember any of this? (she shakes her head.) - i forgot all. / - you don't remember any of it. you have to stay healthy.
let's meet their mom. hello. she's been nervous the whole time. she's with her mother-in-law right now. so she's uncomfortable. is she very strict? in-laws are tough. - yes, she is. / - she hesitated to answer. she's quite strict. i got scolded for coming on the show. she said it's all because i didn't do my job well.
gahye cried and begged me to go on "hello counselor". that's how we came here. i got scolded a lot for it. do you sympathize with your younger daughter? i understand her. ever since she started talking, she's been saying she doesn't want to go to grandma's. that made me think she was deeply hurt. - right. / - right.
(the 11-year-old is troubled.) your mother-in-law says she favors your first daughter because she was unwell before. how is she now? she's very well now. the doctor said she's healthy. but my mother-in-law is very worried. - she worries a lot. / - i will refute that. she's not okay. even if she was careful, she recently fell
and wore a cast on her toenails for two months. she broke her toenails in school while kicking a ball. instead of kicking the ball, she kicked the ground. - that's how it was fractured. / - it was her fault. it's not because of her congenital illness. then, did gahye's grandmother know about gahye being hospitalized? - that's right. / - yes, she knew. (she knew about it.)
- however, she doesn't remember it. / - ma'am! (she feels betrayed.) - how do you call gahye? / - excuse me? (this is how she responds to a question.) (i don't remember. it never happened.) - gosh, she's so adorable. / - ma'am! - speak over the mic. / - i don't remember at all. (it's so hard for her to recall the memory.) (until the end, she said that she didn't remember.)
did she know that gahye was hospitalized? (no way.) - however, she can't... / - ma'am! - she can't remember it. / - she can't remember. (this isn't a still frame.) i don't think she took it seriously. she must have thought that gahye got injured a bit - from playing. / - "she got hurt." when do you think gahye was emotionally hurt?
i think such incident would've occurred. since she's a daughter, my mother was half joking, "you should've been a boy." - my goodness. / - she said that a few times. gahye asked me if i wasn't happy with her being a daughter. - did she say that in front of gahye? / - yes. - that's why gahye was... / - did your grandma... hang on, ma'am.
bring her the mic. do you remember this? i was disappointed but i don't feel that way anymore. i had five daughters and then i delivered my son. as the first child was a daughter, i took care of her well but i hoped that the second one would be a daughter. you told gahye directly about that, though. what exactly did she say at that time?
"if your older sister was a boy," "it was unnecessary for you to be born." - my goodness. / - oh, dear. "your dad is suffering because of you." they lingered as painful remarks. ma'am, how did you feel until you delivered your son? i had my son after delivering five daughters, so i was happy. the elders were happy too. in fact, if one had daughters only in the past,
she was maltreated for not having a son. gosh, i can't even explain how much i struggled. my husband came home after drinking alcohol and threw stuff at home. we couldn't even eat at home. we were kicked out, then i carried my seven kids to our neighbor's. we slept there and came back the next morning. you remember what had happened 30, 40 years ago. (you remember what had happened 30, 40 years ago.)
she remembers everything exactly. - i was deeply hurt. / - she can't recall recent stuff. - who'd remember, then? / - ma'am, since you were filled with such sorrow in the past, you could treat her more nicely. that depends on her. she's very jealous and bad-tempered. she tells me, "you only treat" "my sister well. you hate me." then, i'd say,
"if you don't scream or frown and run errands," "i'd treat you well." granddaughters are adorable the way they are. she doesn't have to do something cute to be adorable. does she have to do something cute? i find both of them adorable. - you do, right? / - her grandmother said that gahye has a peculiar personality. ma'am, do you also think the same way?
gahye has a cute personality. - she's active / - she seems so. and she's quite greedy too. since she's quite a jealous type, she sometimes goes overboard. what did you do to get your parents' attention? i took out all the towels in the bathroom that my mom had folded nicely. you did something she wouldn't like on purpose.
- that's right. / - what else did you do? i sprayed water all over the living room. ma'am, she does have a peculiar personality. (ma'am, she does have a peculiar personality!) what else? i pretended to be asleep in the car - so that my dad would carry me. / - i get that. that's understandable. you wanted be held in your dad's arms. what else?
using a small knife, i cut my finger on purpose to be injured. - what for? / - gahye, that's too... you do know that it's wrong, right? i do know that it's a bad thing. then, you shouldn't do such stuff from now on. it's totally possible for young children. gahye, i think
your parents will only be upset - as they're both busy. / - that's right. however, your grandma is lonely, as she's alone. if you do something nice for her, there's a possibility she'll like you more than your sister. you must get attention from doing something nice. did you know that she's going through this? she made a mess on purpose to get attention. i just knew that she did all those things on purpose.
- you must be shocked. / - exactly. are you a bit brusque? gahye wants me and my husband to love her more, for her grandmother discriminates against her. - she wants to be even. / - that's why she overreacts. gahye, have you ever had a puppy or goldfish? i had goldfish and a hamster. when there are goldfish that swim energetically
while jumping about and those who seem to be sick, which fish do you pay more attention to? - sick fish. / - i see. you pay more attention to the sick ones, right? i think your grandma remembers your sister more as she was born long ago. on the contrary, you are not afraid of speaking among us. you're so pretty and smart that we admire you.
i think your grandmother believes that you will be energetic even if she doesn't take care of you. that's how i feel. - what do you think? / - i feel - reassured. / - is that so? (i praise myself.) when were you most upset? be honest and share with us. (you must have been upset.)
i'm not really upset about anything. however, since i didn't have a son, i am deeply sorry. however, since the wife of my husband's brother had a son, i am grateful to her. when there was a huge earthquake in gyeongju last year, i called my mother before anyone else. the line was busy, so i called her
later on. it turned out that she called the family of my husband's brother first. - to check her grandson. / - to check her grandson. you were upset. i wasn't upset, but... (a foreboding never goes wrong.) you're expressing your thoughts well in a nice way. as i'm the elder daughter-in-law, she cares - more about me. / - i'm sure she does.
she knows the passcode of my house, - so the passcode... / - she really does care a lot. she'd enter and check the fridge. she also cleans the house once in awhile. she gives me words of blessing to clean up. (she's a great mother who gives words of blessing.) - she cares... / - are they really words of blessing? she really cares as if she was her daughter. she especially cares about me only.
- that's how i feel. / - ma'am, is there a place where they teach you all these mean expressions? ma'am, do you remember this? this is what i think. she became my family before holding a wedding ceremony. (that means...) they had a wedding anniversary in six months. (was she pregnant before they got married?) - that's why... / - it was a shotgun wedding?
they didn't have a wedding anniversary. she even spills stuff we're not curious about. (her memory is remarkably amazing.) what a remarkable memory you have. ma'am, you heard what your daughter-in-law said. what do you think after hearing her thoughts? she'd be upset, saying that i was wrong. it'd be nice to treat her warmly, as you're a family. we live separately. there's no need for warm treatment.
we don't even meet that often. (i shouldn't have said all those things.) perhaps, are you upset about anything because of your son or your granddaughters? is there anything you kept to yourself? they did that because they're young. they didn't know. i'm not upset about anything. what she just said about how they'd know nothing
is the difference. people of older generations do not know that children can be sensitive and get hurt, for they were busy trying to afford their living in the old days. "i heard that so many times when i grew up." i guess she didn't take it seriously - that her kids would be hurt emotionally. / - exactly. your grandmother definitely loves you.
- once you grow up, / - he's right. you'll figure out that she loves all her grandsons and her granddaughters. your sister was born before you and she was ill, so your grandmother worried a lot about her. that's when she became attached to her. you should approach her first, as you're smart. when you wrote your story,
what were you hoping to get out of this? i wanted to be closer with grandma. - she's adorable. / - ma'am, what do you think? gahye wrote the story to be closer to you. - that's right. / - is she adorable? change your plan as of today. make her yours, gahye. ma'am, did you come here hoping for a change? of course, a change is necessary. there shouldn't be
- any harm feelings between us. / - of course, not. how do you want your relationship to change? there's nothing else. we should get along well. since it's the beginning, tell us gahye's good things. she's swift and she's soft. - soft? / - she's pleasant. - she's pleasant. / - she's soft. (is that a compliment?) - she's swift. / - she's swift.
- it means she's clever, right? / - yes. please say it in a nice way. (please speak nicely.) ma'am, is there anything you'd like to say to your daughter-in-law and your granddaughters? i love you, my daughter-in-law and my granddaughters. (i love you all evenly.) to be closer with your grandma, you must express love. grandma, please don't discriminate me
against my sister and love us evenly. i'll run errands and behave better. - all right. let's get along well. / - i love you. give your grandma some water. she must be thirsty. - that's right. / - go to her. - feed her. / - how cute. - be quick. / - give her a kiss too. (i'll go see her now.) (she sensibly pours water in a cup.)
thank you. (it tastes nice, for my granddaughter gave it to me.) - give her a kiss. / - give her a kiss. well done. let's hear the guests' opinions. i think it's a worry. among your family, who has the most influence on her? is it perhaps your husband? - that's right. / - since he's very paternalistic,
he's the one who can change your mother. - i see. / - his role is very important in fixing this. her dad must work hard so that his adorable daughter and his mother will make up with each other. you should pull this up and press the button. - i think it's a worry. / - that's it. - for gahye, it's a serious concern. / - it is. however, gahye needs to act cuter than before
to be closer with her grandma. the older one should put more effort. how could a kid... your personality also changed after you hit 50. what are you two doing now? it seems you two haven't seen each other for long. quit working as doctors for a little while. come here and share your story one day. that's right.
she's young but if you feel her, press the button. - stop. / - time's up. we had a lot of conversations today. was it all true that you don't remember? i believe it was true. - all right. / - got it. i wonder how many votes her story got. show us the result. i think many women voted for this story.
- did it get over 100 votes? / - look. it did get over it. (it got over 100 votes.) 127 votes? it got 137 votes. (her story got 137 votes.) - good job. go back to your mom. / - it got a lot. ma'am, many people voted, as they empathized gahye. this means you lied.
(gahye's grandmother is suspected to have lied.) there have been many unique people on hello counselor so far and this person is quite extraordinary as well. hello, i'm a man in his 40s living in seoul. i have a female friend who is bright - with full of energy. / - "a female friend". her name is cho yeongsook. every time i see her, i want to crawl into a hole.
this is what happens when we go eat at a restaurant. "hello, hello!" "i'm yeongsook. is everything well with you?" "yes, but may i ask who you are?" "just call me casually as yeongsook." "how's life treating you lately?" my friend talks about life with a complete stranger - working at a restaurant. / - incredible. "hello, sir. i'm cho yeongsook."
- i like this story. / - "did you have many customers?" she becomes best friends with bus drivers right away. moreover, she'd ask, "sir, when are you off from work?" "will you go out for a drink with me?" - they just met, though. / - "let's exchange numbers." - "here's my number. write it down." / - "my number". she exchanges numbers with ones she first met. - incredible. / - there are about 1,000 people she became friends with this way.
how does this make any sense? this is the worse part. "gosh, i'm so excited!" "i'm so excited that i want to dance right now." if you see someone dancing intensely on the street, - that must be yeongsook. / - it's yeongsook. she can't control her enthusiasm, so i'm busy lowering my head. how can i stop my nosy and enthusiastic friend
to calm herself down? that's the story. when i heard the story, other than the part, "i'm cho yeongsook", she's a bit similar to me. - is that so? / - they're totally alike. she's always floating in the air. i think i spoke too much to compete strangers today, - so i find her similar as me. / - how do you start?
i met taejoon for the first time today but i told him, "you got a cut here. get this at the pharmacy..." - you did say that earlier. / - i saw that. i was really grateful. before we began, the staff members told us about the guests today. they interviewed them in advance and we found out that yeongsook and cultwo know each other very well. that's right. that's why we kept laughing
when you read the story, for she's so funny. (just by hearing her name, they burst out laughing.) we were so surprised to see yeongsook sitting. - it's good to see her. / - she used to be our stylist. - in the past. / - she was your stylist. since then, she was special. she danced often, so we struggled. her enthusiasm is incredible. let's invite the one who's worried about
his enthusiastic friend. come on out! (who's so embarrassed to go out because of his friend?) (lee gwanghoon) (yes! my friend is here!) it must be tough for you. if i may ask, are you married? - yes, i am married. / - you are married. i don't get that you see each other so often, then. there isn't anything between you two, is there?
not at all. i met her through work. - through work. / - that's how i knew her for long. we see each other often but she's way too nosy - and hectic. / - i know. that's actually my big concern. dongyeop, you wouldn't know but she's the type who'd be closer with his wife. that's how sociable she is.
how bad is it? does she really speak to a stranger and dance outside? when we go eat at a restaurant, she'd say, "your skin looks awesome. how old are you?" "have you eaten yet? you look like a heavy drinker," "let's go somewhere else and grab a drink." many people become flustered in the middle of work. when we use public transit like buses, she always says, "hello, i'm yeongsook."
she gives out her business card while he's driving. - last name, too? / - it's hard to introduce oneself. - she says, "i'm cho yeongsook"? / - the drivers - are flustered. / - she introduces herself right away? they mistake her for a celebrity. - "sorry, i don't watch tv." / - "i don't watch tv." they say they don't know her. she doesn't stop there. she talks about life and asks them if it isn't tough to drive.
- that's what she does. / - she does that in buses? isn't it because of an impure intention - to make herself known? / - that's not it. she's now running an acting school. i thought she was doing that on purpose to build connections and meet people. however, since she goes overboard with strangers, she always joins people sitting at the next table. she joins them and hangs out as if she was a company.
she asks others to sing or dance together. in the end, i'm the one to take care of the rest. it was really tough and inconvenient for me. hence, she's not a bad person. - no, she's really nice. / - she's nice, but... - i'm curious to see her. / - you are, right? i get more and more curious. let's meet yeongsook. hello, yeongsook. hello, i'm yeongsook.
(her introduction made a strong impression.) my goodness! (gosh, i'm so excited.) she's not doing that on purpose, right? - no. / - she's always like that. it's actually not easy to speak to a stranger. why do you want to initiate a conversation? after all, we're all of korean race. - since we're of korean race / - anyhow,
there's always a beginning for everyone. hello. i want to get to know and get along with everyone. we all go through the same stuff in life, - so i want to be happy together. / - look at us. (before filming the show,) (she started conversations) (with all the people) (and even took selfies together.) (yeongsook can easily be friends with anyone.)
(she was busy greeting and talking with everyone.) (she even flirts with one guy.) (her sociability beats everyone else's.) how do people react when you start a conversation? i mostly get, "sorry, i don't watch tv." what do you say, then? "that's right, i'm not on tv. i'm an ordinary person." how do they react after that? they become puzzled.
i usually dress up a bit, so people take me for a comedienne or something. is there a reason why you always mention your name? - "i'm yeongsook." / - i think it's polite. "hello, i'm yeongsook." isn't it polite to do so? what's amazing is, when i say, "hello, i'm yeongsook", koreans find me embarrassing and they back off a bit. however, foreigners would respond, "hi" when i say, "hi".
i want our culture to be one where we greet people. when you said, "hello, i'm yeongsook", what was the best response you ever got? i said, "hello, i'm cho yeongsook." then he said, "hello, i'm shin dongyeop." i'm so thankful when that happens. - have you met people like that? / - yes, two. - two people. / - they were taxi drivers. - what's your least favorite reaction? / - two people.
people assume i'm from a cult group and run way. they think you're trying to lure them into a cult. don't some people swear at you? especially if they're in a bad mood. "you little..." some people might do that. luckily, i have a nice visage... i mean, i must have a friendly face. no one has been that rude with me. it sounds like you're confident about your face.
not really. i just know that i look innocent. she said "innocent". - but... / - she said she looks innocent. (he can't even laugh.) i don't think this should be a serious concern. - she's just a very social person. / - right. whenever she feels like it, she doesn't care where she is at the moment and dances with her hips even on the street.
- my gosh. / - it happens often. that's strange. she acts as if she's some sexy celebrity and dances in a lewd way. - on the street? / - yes. it'd be okay if she dances alone. - i'm quite timid. / - right. does she make you dance with her? she drags me into it.
if i don't dance, the situation doesn't get sorted out. that's one example. i've witnessed it many times too. it goes like this. after talking for a little while, she goes, "do you want to see my dance moves?" - my gosh. / - all of a sudden? - then she starts dancing. / - when she's not drunk? - pardon? / - when she's not drunk? she's completely sober. she does that at restaurants.
then she'd dance with the person. when you first meet someone, it can be awkward. i feel awkward too. i try to break the ice through dancing. it'll worsen the awkwardness. - i see. / - you just met the person. if you dance closely together... when you first meet someone? - my gosh. / - let's say that you're at restaurant
and you met taejoon for the first time. you just met him for the first time here. please show us how you'd introduce yourself and dance. - please come up on the stage. / - will you be okay? oh, my. yeongsook! go, yeongsook! yeongsook, you got this! yes. this way, please. - walk in from here. / - for your information, this is a cheonggukjang restaurant.
we're at a cheonggukjang place. we're eating. we're with taejoon. (yeongsook arrives.) (taejoon is startled.) (she suddenly introduces herself to him.) - that's so random. / - i'm not a bad person. do we know each other? - no, we don't. / - i see. hello. - i was born in the year of the monkey. / - celebrity?
- year of the monkey? / - yes. what year were you born? - i was born in 1991. / - really? what do you do? (she talks casually right away.) - pardon? / - what do you do for a living? i do a bunch of things. you're handsome. i'm not a bad person. don't worry. i won't bite you. okay. thank you. get up.
stand up. - my goodness. / - what is going on? - taejoon, did that make you want to get up? / - yes. (come on.) let's dance. (why is she trying to sound all cutesy suddenly?) - this is a crime. / - right, it could be. this is what you do at restaurants. what about when you're on the street with friends?
what would you do if you're in front of a crosswalk? once, i suddenly got so excited at a crosswalk. i got all hyper and started dancing like this. then all of my friends ran away. - show us the dance. / - do we have music ready? - that'd be great. / - please show us your dance. yeongsook, show everyone what you can do. - go, yeongsook! / - go for it! - oh, my. / - you can rock this!
(she moves like an octopus.) - go, yeongsook! / - here we go. (i'm cho yeongsook!) (call her friends or family if you see her do this.) gosh, my goodness. oh, boy. (she doesn't hold back even in front of many people.) we were at a loss for words when we first saw this. i wonder this every time. don't you get embarrassed?
i never feel embarrassed. she's just so used to it. (those around her get embarrassed.) it looks like yeongsook's friends are here too. - let's meet them. hello. / - her friends... her friends seem quite special too. (yeongsook and her friends) how did you guys meet? i went on a group blind date.
everyone was feeling awkward since it was a blind date. then some girl showed up suddenly out of nowhere and said, "hello, everyone. i'm yeongsook." - she wasn't supposed to be there? / - not at all. she wasn't? did she just show up, then? yeongsook showed up out of nowhere. then she started livening up the atmosphere. - i thought it was odd, / - she was like an event host but later found out the person who set it up sent her.
the one who arranged the blind date. she went a little overboard, which made all the guys on the blind date bail on us. all the girls there became friends, though. we got so excited among ourselves and ended up going clubbing that day. (they partied it up.) - you've been friends since then? / - yes.
- we've been friends for 7 years now. / - wow, 7 years? - i love her personality. / - what about you? i really want to know how she met yeongsook. - she piques my curiosity the most. / - she looks like she could be yeongsook. - the name suits her face. / - people probably - assumed so due to her outfit. / - those who have "yeong" in their names tend to be full-figured. i'm gwanghoon's wife.
(she is yeongsook's friend and gwanghoon's wife.) - she's his wife. / - i see, she's his wife. yeongsook and my wife met through work. - we got married... / - because of yeongsook? - was she like a matchmaker? / - yes, she was. the two of them hang out often and random guys end up joining them on many occasions. hence, i have no choice but to... - you get anxious. / - yes. i end up joining them, too.
that's why i keep spending time with yeongsook. i can understand why your husband gets anxious. he shouldn't be worried because we tend not to cross the line. - we don't do anything bad... / - you tend not to? - do you cross the line sometimes? / - exactly. and it's not like we hang out with guys all the time. we just like to hang out with people we randomly meet. we don't meet guys often.
you must enjoy it. that's what your outfit is telling me. you must have a party to go to after this. your outfit is surely eye-catching. you should just trust your wife. she's saying you shouldn't worry. just trust her. when yeongsook drinks, she becomes at least ten times more hyper than usual. she drinks with people whom she doesn't know
- and even goes for a second round. / - to drink more? yes, she'd drink more with them. and all of a sudden, you'd see her sleeping on one of their laps. - gosh. / - because she's drunk? - yes, she'd be drunk. / - yeongsook does that? it was a random guy she just met. he looked at me, looking all flustered. i've been thrown into such uncomfortable situations many times because of her.
how do such situations get sorted out? she creates those situations and just leaves. i'm usually the one who has to clean up the mess, which can be very embarrassing and annoying. it makes me want to swear at times. how many days in a week does she drink? about seven days. (she drinks seven days a week.)
- she drinks every day. / - every single day. yes, i think she drinks every day. that's not alcohol, is it? i wasn't going to drink yesterday but i ended up drinking because of my friends. i had to go to church today, so... to pray after drinking last night? do you dance even at the church? - i'm in the dance team. / - pardon?
- i'm in the dance team. / - come again? she's a member of the dance team. (she cannot hide her talent.) as you know, the church is a sacred place. i asked the pastor to tie my hips down. (please tie my hips down!) she asked to have her hips tied down. my gosh, did you dance with your hips to a hymn? - i try to restrain the urge. / - she's trying.
does it come out here and there? - it comes out full on. / - show us. - i've got peace like a river / - i can dance to this. (her groove knows no bounds.) did you actually dance like that at your church? yes. so... i try to keep myself in check. do other members of the church complain? yes, they complain a lot as it's a renowned church.
as her acquaintance, i'm very embarrassed right now. (he has transcended everything.) why don't you date anyone? - pardon? / - why are you single? i always end up getting dumped. - she gets dumped. / - my gosh. guys usually go missing in action. (the reason is simple but sad.) once, i got so puzzled by it
and asked my close guy friend. the guy clearly read my message but he didn't reply. so i asked my friend about it and he said, "he just doesn't like you." so i was like, "why can't he just say that?" i asked my friend why he doesn't give me a closure. he said, "he doesn't even want to bother." so after learning my lesson, i stopped calling him.
why didn't you know? it's pretty obvious to me. you could try setting her up with a nice guy. she could focus on him - and you guys can all become friends. / - right. i have thought about it but i have to think from the guy's perspective too. i can't help but hesitate setting her up with guys. even when she's with her boyfriend, she'd hang out - with people at other tables. / - guys hate that.
can she not focus on her boyfriend? that's not true. i'd brag about my boyfriend to people. i'd be like, "this is my boyfriend. isn't he handsome?" (she probably shouldn't do that.) - will he like it? / - he'll be embarrassed. why do you always have to talk to strangers? please be honest. isn't it your drunken habit? not at all. i do it when i'm sober. - seriously? / - i black out when i get drunk.
i'd just want to brag about my lovely boyfriend. gwanghoon is hesitant about setting you up with guys. i can be a great girlfriend. i'm a good cook and i can be very caring. i don't really know why he's hesitant. how do you not know? if that's the case, i'm wondering if you can try to tame the urge to talk to strangers. i actually have a friend who hates it.
she absolutely hates it when i talk to strangers, so i'm tight-lipped when i'm with her. - to be considerate of your friend? / - yes. that's why i hold myself back. i feel so bad, though. i feel apologetic as i don't get to greet everyone. even when i take a taxi, i feel sad if i don't get to share my energy. - with fellow koreans. / - that's how you feel. yes, i feel so sorry.
when i get off, i always say, "this was yeongsook." - "this was yeongsook." / - alternately... (she has to introduce herself to everyone she sees.) it's great that you want to share your energy, but there must be times when you want to be comforted. what do you do in such times of stress? to tell you the truth, i don't get stressed out easily. i just don't want to waste my precious time. i want to go out and help others,
- spread love and share my energy. / - spread energy. i love it. only those who have felt it would know. when i console people's hearts and offer them advice, they break into tears... and say, "yeongsook, i'm so happy to have met you." hearing that gives me indescribable joy. in other words, you love being around people. - it makes me happy. / - you must dislike being alone. to be honest, i'm rarely alone.
my only alone time is the two hours of sleep i get. - i'm too busy meeting people. / - you're so busy. - do you only get two hours of sleep a day? / - yes. - don't you get tired? / - it's actually three hours. have you ever fainted from fatigue or gone to the emergency room? - you get so little sleep. / - exactly. i actually went to the emergency room recently. - why? what happened? / - i had been busy
giving my energy to my friends since that morning. all of a sudden, my field of vision narrowed down and i felt like i saw some stuff passing by. then i couldn't breathe. so what did you do? did you go to a hospital? i went into the emergency room but nothing was wrong. like you just said, continuous sleep deprivation can cause sudden difficulty in breathing. it's called dysautonomia.
you can feel dizzy and nauseous too. did you have shortness of breath? you were probably panting without being aware of it. you should sleep more since it already happened to you. - esther is sincerely concerned. / - yes, i am. right. she seems very energetic and people around her love her so much but there's a side that is concerning us. that's why we're saying this. let me ask the wife.
since you two are very close, i'm sure you get worried about yeongsook. once, we were walking together and saw a bunch of big, scary-looking guys. they were talking loudly using abusive language. yeongsook went up to them all of a sudden and said, "why are you guys being so loud? what are your names?" they talked it through, so it got sorted out but i do get anxious and worried in such situations.
how do you muster up courage to be that gutsy? - they had kind eyes. / - pardon? she said they had kind eyes. i still keep in touch with one of them. we met four years ago at gangnam station. i'm grateful that nothing bad has happened to me yet. what will you do if you run into someone who's evil? i think she's very warm-hearted and considerate. your two closest friends are worried about you, though.
how do you feel about trying to listen to them more? - right. / - that hurts my feelings the most. my friends tell me to think about how they feel but i want them to try to be more understanding. i make people smile and laugh and there are some who feel happy because of me. i hope my friends can be more understanding and take that into consideration. it is impressive. she approaches people first.
it's almost like what the enlightened used to do. she doesn't hesitate to approach others first. - she does give off an enlightened vibe. / - exactly. we're even talking about how enlightened you seem. we want good people like you to live long lives. if you continue to meet 30 people a day, you'll ruin your health. cut it down to 25 a day now, then to 20 people a day 2 years from now. - that way... / - esther, this is a variety show.
gosh, you make everyone feel bored. okay. - you two will have another fight. / - probably. - "how can you talk to me like that?" / - all right. to be able to continue giving advice to those who really need your help, - you should take care of your health. / - yes. esther is right. please say a few words to yeongsook. i admire how joyful and cheerful you are
but it'd be great if you can try to be less hyper and nosy so that you can focus more on yourself. that's what i want from yeongsook. - all right. thank you. / - he's a good friend. okay. we had two guests for today's show. do you not think it's a worry? no. there's a condition called hypomania, which is a mild case of mania. - is that what she has? / - hypomania isn't
really an illness, so please don't get the wrong idea. it's actually the most ideal type of personality. - really? / - yes. it's because those who are hypomanic are always happy. - they're pleasant. / - they must be optimistic too. yes. all psychiatrists say that mania must be treated - but when it comes to hypomania, / - it's good. they highly praise it. i can certainly tolerate this. - esther thinks it's a worry. / - we think differently.
- what? / - she chose o. - i was going to press x, / - what happened? but as i mentioned earlier, she might have a hard time later in life if she doesn't set a goal. - she might feel that way. / - it may feel futile. - yes, that's what i think. / - she is hypomanic. with a little bit of counseling, she can have the most ideal type of personality anyone would want. she has a lot of potential.
stop saying that she needs to get it treated. i'm just trying to help her out here. - a professional... / - why do you two keep fighting? - we're just... / - i'm saying that you shouldn't worry. with a little bit of help... there are times that you two agree, right? - of course. / - yes, certainly. (i'll just figure it out myself.) press the button if you empathize with this worry.
- in five, four, / - in five, four. - stop. / - time is up. don't you think that saying hi first is a good thing? - yes, it's great. / - saying hello first is awesome. koreans remain on their guard and get awkward - when strangers say hello to them. / - that's right. we should be open like yeongsook and say hello back. - a little smile goes a long way. / - definitely. yeongsook, please say a few words to your friends.
thanks so much for worrying about me. i'm realizing how much you guys love me. i'll be sure to give back the love, so please trust me and be patient with me. let's be happy together for the rest of our lives. i love you all. - yeongsook, / - "this was yeongsook." say hello to everyone who's watching this now. hello, everyone. i'm yeongsook.
how do you do? i'm not a bad person. my name is yeongsook. i'll continue to say hello to you, my fellow koreans. let's be happy together. - thank you. / - great. all right. please show us the result. "hello, i'm yeongsook". the last digit. nice. the lucky number, seven.
- will it get more than 100 votes? / - 77? - it got 67 votes. / - 67 votes in total. (the story got 67 votes.) - thank you for joining us. / - thank you. that makes "daughter, please stop" today's winner. the winner will receive a prize. congratulations.
until the day we are all worry-free, hello counselor will continue to counsel you. - thank you! / - thank you!
("roar" by sf9)
